YES for a NO

 

 

When was the last time you had  NO for a response..  A well defined, clear cut and squared off NO.

How we despise having NO for an answer?

What all trajectories we follow for a escapade from a NO?

Have you thought at some point of time, when you received a straight and clearcut NO, that this person is mean, insensitive, not worth having a relation with? Have you thought, if they had rather delivered a butter coated version of it..it would have been easier to swallow? Have you spent, disturbed days and sleepless nights regretting over a NO?

How long did it take accepting a NO? And how did it change you as a person?

If a NO is affecting you so badly,  Or it did make you a much unwelcome version of yourself,  making you act out or regress inwards.. then it is time we reconsider your schemas.

1)      We are social beings, with necessity to interact consistently.

2)      Interactions mostly mean unspoken needs and untold fulfillments

3)      Sometimes when our needs go a little beyond the usual, we bargain for a little more. Sometimes demand.

4)      The person receiving the demand, lives in a state of balance created for himself.

5)      So a request placed all of a sudden, might need him to disturb his balance and create a niche for your request.

6)      He as an individual, has all the rights to deny being disturbed as well

7)      Sometimes people who have the capacity to say a NO, might be good as well, as they themselves expect less from you, at the same time providing a compatible companionship with less emotional burden.

8)      Knowing to receive a NO gracefully, saves a lot of energy and help you invest your energy  elsewhere successfully.

9)      You may just have to knock a few more doors, or the same door at different and appropriate timing, or from a different side.. till the right ones open up for you.

10)   When you become emotional about a NO, you don’t get to try it the right way..Hence you don’t find the right window at all.

11)   When you receive a NO.. also rethink your purpose for the demand or request.. if , you can do without that.. Or you can modify your proposal in some better ways without affecting the equilibrium of the other person much.

12)   When externalizing emotions are exhibited much.. it may tarnish your image at a later day, for a bigger goal

13)   If you are achieving your demand by violence.. you are still leaving a hollow in the system.. hence affecting the balance of the system, whice may come back to you in much worser ways.

14)   When you accept NO gracefully.. you also learn to say NO for an answer, when needed, with the same elegance and grace when needed.

15)   If you still believe that your demand is reasonable.. you have to affect the belief system of the individual, rather than act at the negotiation point.

16)   Remember.. Delayed gratification.. is the teacher of some prescious qualities, which would always benefit you.